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Friday Five

1. I dyed my hair back to brown. NOt really my natural hair colour, but a warm chocolate brown, perfect for fall. So… no more vibrant red highlights at this point. Maybe again though.

2. I am back to normal. Meaning, I got my period today for the first time in nearly a year and a half. MAN, that was something I could have done without for a while longer.

3. I ate a teenburger for lunch today. I cannot even remember the last time I ate that crap, and as a result, I can still feel it sitting there, bulging in my stomach.

4. I finally settled on a cushion cut diamond. And, its conflict-free, which is good for humanity. But, it makes me feel like a bit of a spoiled brat.

5. I was sad this morning, when I saw the sunshine, because I love rainy days the most.

There you go, five true facts about me, today.


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I have reccently become aware of the vast array of visitors this blog gets. Makes sence right? Its the world wide web. More people than I can control visit this site. And I know this based on my blog stats, kind of.
The problem is, that you never know EVERYONE that comes here.

And I feel the need to express my appologies to any person who feels hurt by anything I say here. I mean no ill will. This is catharsis. It is freedom. It is mine.  Its the only thing I get completely for me.

But I never meant to hurt you. Truly. Even though our lives are no longer connected, I would never wish things badly for you, or try to hurt you, or your character. I admire you, throughout our entanglements, and wish you very very well.  Im sorry for disrespecting any part of you.

And to anyone who reads this blog, please take into consideration that there are many sides to a story, many faccets, and this is just mine. Sometimes it may be biased. Sometimes there may be peices that I dont know about that are missing. Take it at face value, but know that, as in life, there is always more.

This is just my story.  Everyone has one.  

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The Jar Budget.

SO Jeremy posted a blog about this, and spoke about it on the radio, and I think its garnered a lot of interest, so I decided to blog about it too.

We have inflicted a state of broke on ourselves.

We decided to put our spending and lifestyle on a diet. We have goals, we have plans, and we dont get any closer to them flittering money away on junk.

We are getting married, we have actually picked the date and place. November 10, 2009, Puerto Vallarta. I have ring expectations, no denying that. And bottom line is, the way we spend our money, I dont get my honking rock.


We want Madelyn to have a good upbringing, and dont want to worry about being able to afford things, for her or her future sibling(s).

We want to go places, own a home with a yard, invest in our lives.

Enter: The jar budget.

So, you sit down, maybe with excel, because lets face it, I love me some excel spreadsheets, and you put it all down on paper.

First, your total household income, after the tax man, before ‘life’. You can do it separately, but it was easiest in our situation,  in a two income household, to put ALL the money that comes in, because it saves having to break down ‘mine and yours’.
From that total you subtract what I refer to as you A PAYMENTS. This is the MUST list. YOur mortgage or rent, your hydro bill, cable, internet, phone, life insurance, loans. The bills.

Ok, now after those are all subtracted from your income, you have a new total.
From this total you deduct your B PAYMENTS. THis is the perks list, and it can contain anything you feel you need to have and pay for every month. Ours?  Entertainment, the gym, Baby, Groceries, Clothes/Gifts and Gas.
(Now we can argue that groceries and baby should be on the A payments list, because they are non-negotiable, but in our case it was easier for us to make A payments solely bills – dont worry though, the baby obviously gets diapers and we obviously eat.)

Here’s the key, you take out ALL the B PAYMENTS in cash, divvy it up and store it in the labeled jars.

(Obviously barring any emergency)

What makes this ‘diet’ work is creating a false sence of ‘broke’. When the money in your entertainment fund is out? Well, no more movies til next month. Tough luck.  You have to be strict.

The beauty? YOu can do it on any income level, and living in a cash only world allows you to build some form of savings. The money left over after all A and B PAYMENTS are out is savings. Its gravy.

In our case its diamond rings. Its vacations. Its debt free living.

Thats our goal. Opperate debt free. And we will. We just have to be frugal now. We set our bar and our goals, and we will get there.

Of course issues may arise, emergencies or WEMUSTHAVETHISNOW’s, and the money will be there, but until that time we have to pretend its not. We HAVE to, or we are constantly swimming in a circle and living paycheque to paycheque.

I think the beauty of this budget is that it CAN be adapted to anyone. You change your jar lables, you change the figures, and you MAKE yourself live within the cash flow.

Maybe the key is getting out of this ‘plastic world’ mindset we all put ourselves in. Its convinient, yes, but is it worth it?

We’ll see.


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Oy, Canada.


Thats a sigh, not a scream. The two have always confused me when written. I never know if Im supposed to be breathing a sigh of relief for whom Im reading, or creeping to the edge of my seat along with them. But fear not, this stat holiday, I sigh.

Its nine thirty, my baby girl is bathed, clean diapered, boobed and in bed. Out. Cold.

Jer is djing down at a local bar tonight. All can-con for the local drunkies downtown for the fireworks. I will not be partaking in the festivities this year. No, not I.

Im home, alone, and couldnt be happier. Dont get me wrong, I am very patriotic. I love my country as much as the next guy, Im just way too comfy on my couch.

I have, in the past, donned canada day deely boppers or fashioned a dress out of a flag and cheerfully shouted patriotically with the masses. But not this year.

I have drank luke warm beer out of plastic cola bottles, shared cigarettes with strangers and peed in (mostly) abandoned parking lots. But not this year.

This year I wandered about with my family in the glorious sunshine this afternoon, bbqued my man and me some dinner, and tucked in my kidlett.

I have had her puke on me this year, no need for a drunk teenager sardined in beside me.  I would rather watch online episodes of Mad Men (my new obsession) instead of this city’s terrible excuse for a fireworks display. Maybe Im getting old, but I just dont feel the urge this year.

So now? Now Ima sit down and read a book and drink a very good cup of coffee.

THAT is my idea of a good time, this year.


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Yes, yes, oh yay.

See? I promised, and I (almost) never break a promise. Especially if pinkies are involved.

So, I have had some deccent financial luck as of late.
For starters, I started getting random cheques from the government. Neat! Oh yeah, child tax credit, awesome!
Child care credit? Sure!
Then, I got a promotion at work. Yeah, I got a job two paid grades higher while ON mat leave. I’m bragging, its disgusting, I know, but I’m effing proud. I will go back to a job worth going back to.
And then today we got a $400 cheque in the mail for referring our realtor to a co-worker of Jer’s who ended up buying with her. Nice.

So, its treat time.

Ive been drooling over the idea of a new camera. Yeah, I know, we just got one, and it rocks, I loves it big time. BUT, its a point and shoot, and my heart yearns for a fancy smancy digital slr. Like, I long for one.
So Ive been doing some research and think Ive narrowed it down to either a canon or a nikon, but possibly a sony.

This one maybe?

Thats the canon. Prrrr.

Or how about this?

Quite obviously, the nikon. *Drool*

Or? Theres this lovely…


Im torn.
SO Ive enlisted the help of a few camera savvy friends and will hopefully make the deadly purchase this weekend. You know, between painting the kidletts room, finishing unpacking and the Oak Bay tea party. Look for better pictures to make an appearance shortly there after.

I know right? Woah is me, cant pick between three retardedly expensive cameras, blah blah blubber whine.
S’ok, Im done now.

On another note, I did make a decision to start blogging regularly. I like it. And I like readin other peoples, especially other moms. How cool is this new generation of women exposing their lives and flexing their creative muscles?! Im seriously so inspired. Now lets hope I dont suck at it. 😛

Aiight, I think its time to put Mr. Laptop down. Madelyn is has been making some wicked grunting noises on my lap, and I think I need to go take care of that. Its getting stanky. Oh the joys hey?

PS – ZoeyJane? I totally typed most of this one handed. Frickin A.


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Life, giggles and colic.

Ooooooh, why yes, yes we are still alive.

Miss Madelyn is eight weeks old this Sunday. WOW. But she isnt two months until next Thursday.  And how will we celebrate? By moving into our new condo.
We signed all the papers today and we close our deal on Tuesday and then we’re homeowners. $#%&@!!!!!

Yeah.  Double WOW.

The past eight weeks have been a blur. I find that I sit down now and am blown away at how quickly time is already passing. Shes changed so much since we came home from the hospital. She watches people now. She follows you around the room, at first just with her eyes, now her whole head turns as you cris-cross the room. She smiles, and not just at lights and windows anymore, she smiles AT you. She giggles when shes happy and when Daddy tickles her cheeks. She coos and goos and gahs. And I know that the next time I blink she will be crawling. And then walking. And talking. Oh god, stop.
Every day there is another soft hair on her blondie head. Every week she has a new tender roll on her beautiful belly.  Im sure if I watched her for an hour straight I would see her grow before my eyes.
I love seeing her change each day, but I yearn for her to stop, stay tiny and curled in my arms. Wrap her tiny fingers around mine and stare into my eyes forever.
Even her cries are changing. She has a touch of colic, and so I am very familiar with her cries now, each and every one of them. And just when I think I cant handle another minute of crying, she smiles at me and gurgles and I melt. Every day passes so quickly.  Dont ever grow up my precious baby.

But I am savouring it. The little moments before she falls alseep and her hands clasp me as though Im all she needs. The smell of her baby curls and the crook of her neck.  The feel of her arms, soft and downy and so small.  The little things that I thought I wouldnt notice, that I couldnt live without, that I know I could never forget.  


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A little late, but here she is.

Well, its been quite a week.

I guess, for anyone who doesnt know, I should mention that we had our baby.
Sunday February 24 at 1:08 pm miss Madelyn Olivia Baker graced the world with her presence. Finally.

Saturday evening Jeremy and I went to a hockey game with James and Holly and afterwards decided to go to the Keg for a fantastical feast. We filled up on caesar salad, steak, potatoes, lobster and even creme brule for desert. It was more than I have eaten… ever. And delightful.

We had dinner late, so we got home and went to bed around 12:30. I woke up just before two am with the most horrible cramps and thought perhaps my stomach wasnt reacting nicely to the garlic, as it sometimes does. So I laid in bed, willing them to go away and felt a strange snap or a popping feeling. I got up to go to the washroom and litterally gushed everywhere. It seems it wasnt the garlic at all, but the baby saying it was go time.
In the bathroom I noticed my water was a dark and discusting green colour, which made me feel sick to my stomach thinking something was very very wrong.
I woke Jeremy up and called the hospital to ensure that it was as I had suspected, meconium. It was, and so off we went to the hospital.
Between the time we left home and arrived at the hospital at 3 am my contractions were 2 minutes apart.
I was hooked up to fetal monitors and, after an hour of horrible contractions, opted to take the gas mask for a test drive. Bliss.
Nitrous Oxide doesnt take the pain away, but it makes your brain forget that its in pain. At least thats what it felt like. You breathe it in as deeply as you can during your contractions and about half way through you start to feel like youre floating. It made my face feel like it was asleep. I think Jeremy thought I looked like a doped up drug addict… I remember very much wanting to share it with him when the nurses werent looking.

At around 4cm I requested an epidural. I went into the labour knowing I would take one if I wanted it, and do not for a second regret it. Although the iv made me so puffy that in all my pictures after her birth I look like a swollen chipmunk, and my legs and feet took five days to go back to their original size!!
After the epi Jeremy and I had a chance to have a little bit of a nap which was wonderful.
Around seven my mom and Megan showed up and visited for a bit.
In all honesty, between eight and eleven, I dont remember much, I dozed on and off and had my epidural topped up when I noticed an incredible urge to bear down.
I started complaining to the nurse (Tracie, who freaking rocked) about how strong the urge to push was, and how I was certain that I either needed to be checked, or they were going to need to change the sheets in a minute.
My doctor came in and examined me and I think everyone was a little shocked to see that I had progressed to 9 and a half cm already.
We topped up my epidural again and tried to wait out the last hour.
Thats when everyone started arriving, Jeremys mom and sister, both my sisters. It was a crowded room.
Then Tracie politely kicked everyone but Jeremy out and said that it was time to get the show on the road. I asked for my mom to come back in, because I had wanted her to be there as well.
At noon I was fully dialated and they turned down my epidural so I would feel the urge to push, and the baby coming out. We pushed for an hour straight. My contractions were right on top of one another, so there was minimal breaks in between each push.
I swear, I have never used some of the muscles that I did to push that child out of me.
It took every ounce of strength that I had, and I kept turning to Jeremy through out and telling him that I couldnt do it.  I would push and push and PUSH, and then lay back and just start sobbing, not because it hurt but because I was so overwhelmed. There were times I wanted to scream for my doctor to just reach in and grab her head  and pull it out next time she said “here comes the head again Coral”.
But its funny, almost as soon as I said I couldnt do it, they told m to slow my push down and her head was out. In an instant so was the rest of her body and I felt this unbelievable instant relief.
The pediatrician had to wisk her away and ensure he airways were clear because of the meconium, so Jeremy didnt get to cut the cord, and they didnt lay her right on me. It was hard knowing she was out and that I couldnt hear or see her.  But I remember asking right away if she was “still a girl”.
She was. She is. And shes stunning.
At 1:08 pm, after an hour of pushing we had a little girl.
I turned to Jeremy and just lost it, I cant tell you the last time I cried like that.
I knew that having a child would be life altering, and I knew it would feel incredible. But I didnt realize it would be like that. There are truly no words to explain just how overcome you are.

So, Madelyn Olivia Baker is a beautiful little wonder, all 7lb 13oz of her. She looks just like her father, with my nose and my scowl. She has dirty blonde hair and smells amazing.

I have been recovering well, no stitches or tears to impede my recovery, so I have been able to fully imerse myself in her.

We have a little family now, and I have never felt so full and complete.

Our first official family photo.

One day old at the hospital.

What a little beauty.


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3 days until her due date.

… and still nothing.

Pout pout pout.

Jeremys cousin Jacquie has her little baby boy (Andrew) this evening.  I must admit, Im jealous. Everyone that I knew that was pregnant and due near me has had their babies.
Miss Madelyn, you certainly are stubborn. 
And I know, I know, Im not even running late yet. Shes due on the 20th, and its only the 17th today… But when you walk around for three weeks with a baby fully engaged, your cervix completely effaced, and as of two weeks ago 2cm dialated ( I have no idea if thats changed) its hard to think shes going to be late. ESPECIALLY when your doctor says she would be shocked if that little baby wasnt early.
Then I remember, oh yeah, she’s a product of me and Jeremy. Of course shes going to do things on her own schedule, her own way.

How silly of anyone to have assumed otherwise!


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Caught in the Rain

cue up Preston School of Industry’s “Caught in the Rain.”

Coral is about ready to get this baby out of her.

Friday was a good adventure.  I was working late as I am known to do on a Friday and Coral was feeling terrible.  She had a lot of pain in her back so she called her doctor and her doctor recommended we hit the hospital to check it out.  Warren picked me up at the Zone and off we went to Vic General.

We arrived at around midnight and proceded to sit around for the next two-and-half hours.

Some student doctor kept coming in and asking, “on a scale of one to ten, with one being no pain and ten being excruciating, how do you feel?”

Coral would answer soemthing like, “four.”

and then he’d “hmmm, I see” then run off for twenty minutes to come back and do it all again.

This last minute, late night call opened my eyes to the very real possiblity that our baby… *might* be born at some weird hour after I had done a 9 hour day.  No food, I feel like ass, Coral does not have her bag, does not have her slippers… all that fun stuff that we would pack if the baby would come on a lazy Sunday… like today.

So after they let us go home at 2:30AM… we slept and on Saturday went on an adventure.

We bought a hamper from Superstore and filled it with snack foods, soups, sweets, drinks and all the yummy things we’d eat if we were camping.

Coral packed her bag and all that is left to do is make a playlist on iTunes to jam out while we’re waitng for Madelyn to be born.

We are also trying all the witch craft and old wives tales we can find on getting this baby to come out of Coral.  Lots of walks… mmmm, lots of spice.  A warm bath, cleaning, and uhhh… sexual relations.

We went for a wlak today down to Ditch Records to pick up some new music, the Hot Chip and Bison albums, and it dumped rain on us!  yikes.  Coral was drenched… me, less so.  I wore my gumboots!

Time to get ready to head down to Element to DJ.



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OK…. So I -MAY- have jinxed myself by saying for so long I thought she would be early.

Im starting to feel like shes never going to come out. And yes, I realize that my due date isnt for another 13 days…. but so what. IM IMPATIENT!

My friend Sandy, who was due Valentines day, had her little girl on February 3, Superbowl Sunday.  Boo. I was having semi-regular contractions almost ALL DAY Sunday, and still…. NOTHING.

Le sigh.

Oh well I guess, today I cleaned my bathroom and swept my apartment and set up appointments to go look at condos tomorrow and meet with our mortgage broker.  So, I guess she’s doing us a favour by staying tucked away.
But you try telling that to my poor aching body. Im so sore. Im fully effaced and 2cm dialated and she has dropped down and her head is fully engaged. The pressure is discusting.
Whats that? Oh, its going to get worse?? Yeah thanks.



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